-- Last Updated: Mar-16-13 11:51 PM EST --
The issue is not about compatibility between boats. Nor is the issue about camping styles of canoes & kayaks.
Boats are inanimate objects.
The issue appears to be between you & your "partners". If they can't go where you want, or do what you want........they are potentially NOT your partners.
I spent most of this past friday paddling whitewater with a small group of paddlers; 3 canoers, and 1 kayaker.
The kayaker was the least skilled of the 5 paddlers. We didn't run off & leave the kayaker. At one rapid; we even waited while the lesser skilled kayaker walked around a rapid.
We all started at point A & ended up at point B, together. Yes, we did have to "adapt" some, but we are all still paddling partners. We will almost certainly paddle together in the near future.
P.S. To find out what a skilled canoe paddler can do in a canoe; research Don Starkell. Wonder if he'd have let you tag along with him?